{"product_id":"9781433837036","title":"A Perfectionist's Guide to Not Being Perfect","description":"\u003cp\u003eIt's hard for teens to be happy when they've created a very narrow window of what defines success. The goal of this helpful book is to encourage teens to maintain their desire to achieve without striving to always be perfect and to appreciate and love who they are just as they are, not for what they do or accomplish. Finding a balance between work and play is key. Challenging perfectionism is about the pursuit of happiness.     When teens can recognize that perfectionism is a disadvantage, they can become motivated to do something about it. For many, it may just be shifting the perfectionism a bit to land in a more positive place.  It might be about deciding when and where to be slightly perfectionistic, when and where they can let go of high standards and all-or-nothing thinking, and when it's okay to simply do a \"good enough\" job on something.     Topics covered include:       What is Perfectionism \u0026amp; Why Change it?   Treating Perfectionism with Cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT):    Mastering Self-Care: Relaxation \u0026amp; Meditation   Challenging Perfectionistic Thinking: The Path to Freedom Part 1    Decision-Making, Flexibility, \u0026amp; Comfort Zones   Challenging Perfectionistic Behavior: The Path to Freedom, Part 2   Picture Perfect: Social Media \u0026amp; Body Image   Making Mistakes, Failing \u0026amp; Life Lessons    Stress Management \u0026amp; Balanced Living       The book also includes resources, additional reading for teens, additional reading for Parents, apps, references, and a comprehensive index     Symptoms of Perfectionism:     Refusal to accept anything less than perfect  Holding yourself to impossible-to-meet high standards  Believing that your worth is measured by your achievements or grades  Being hyper-focused on grades  Needing to get straight-As or be the best at your sport\/chosen activity  Spending excessive amounts of time on projects or schoolwork because you have to make it perfect  Checking work over and over again  Needing extensions to hand in assignments or papers  Being preoccupied with rules and lists  Being rigid and inflexible (for example, if plans change)  Difficulty asking for help  Difficulty delegating tasks to others  Difficulty making decisions  Procrastination  Being unable to handle making a mistake  Feeling guilty for making a mistake or perceived failures  Being self-critical and harsh with yourself if your performance falls short of perfect  Constantly comparing yourself to others  Only being happy when you win or come in first  Being unable to accept feedback or constructive criticism  Spending hours on your appearance  Refusing to leave the house unless you look your best  Hyper-focusing on parts of your body that you are not happy with  Having negative body-image because your body is not perfect like a male or female model's body  Restricted eating (either due to wanting to stay within a certain calorie range or only eating 100% clean foods)  Waking up very early at the same time every day to exercise for 2 hours  Expecting others to do things to your standards  Regularly feeling disappointed in others  Expecting that others won't make mistakes  Holdings others to high\/unattainable standards (for example, that others should do things in the way you would)  Being unwilling to delegate tasks to others        Being critical of others  Not being happy for others when they do well        Trouble sharing your thoughts or feelings  Difficulty relaxing and letting go  Inability to be spontaneous         Impact of Perfectionism:     Stress  Low self-esteem\/ self-worth  Low self-confidence\/ not believing in yourself  Self-doubt  Self-criticism  Self-deprecation  Feeling lots of pressure  Feeling like a failure  Feeling guilt  Feeling a sense of shame  Inability to celebrate your achievements  Negative impact on relationships with parents, teachers, friends  Others perceiving you as judgmental or \"hard\" on them  Trouble being close to others because you are overly judgmental  Limited problem-solving skills resulting from inflexible thinking  Limited creativity (often resulting from appealing to someone else's ideals)  Missing out on enjoyable, fun experiences  Missing out on being social  Physical problems such as GI issues and headaches  Exhaustion or fatigue  Anxiety  Depression  Body image disturbance  Eating disorders\u003c\/p\u003e","brand":"MAGINATION PRESS","offers":[{"title":"Default Title","offer_id":51185345429778,"sku":"9781433837036","price":27.99,"currency_code":"AUD","in_stock":true}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/0508\/3093\/4173\/files\/9781433837036.jpg?v=1774735222","url":"https:\/\/bargainbooks.com.au\/products\/9781433837036","provider":"Bargain Books Australia","version":"1.0","type":"link"}